would you?

I would remember every single detail of my man's life, it's like I absorb everything and keep them safely inside my mind. What he likes, what he listens to, whatever that is going on in his life..

It's a simple thing, just listen to your partner and learn to save the details that can be used forever, right? I think it is only natural for me to want to know that beloved person. If possible I'd like to trace his footsteps - every single one of it, every minute of the day. But then I'd seem like a crazy person if I do that..haha.

But guys don't always remember things..could that mean they love us women any less?

How would guys feel if we ask them the same question about themselves over and over again - when they already told us before? Would they feel like how women would feel?

Consider this..

Girl: Where should we go for our vacation next year, honey?

Guy: Let's rent a lodge, there's this place I happen to come across before when I was with the guys and the view is amazing. You'd like it there. Besides, you know I don't like those crowded beaches.

A couple of weeks later,

Girl: Honey, let's go to the beach. My friends want us to join them.

Guy: Baby, I don't like going to the beach.

Another couple of weeks after that,

Girl: I'm taking you somewhere special for your birthday, honey.

Guy: This road's heading to the beach, baby.

Girl: Yeah, that's the special place I mentioned. I already arranged something for us there.

Guy: I don't like to go to the beach, baby.

How would the guy feel then? Would he feel as sad as a girl if the situation's reversed?

different

I have been watching many dramas and movies, and would usually warm up to the protagonist without much difficulties. It is easy - he's cute, lovable, often a tall guy, and also he seems to know how to steal our heart right from the second we take a look at him.

Then, a thought struck me last night while I was watching a drama with a lot of other nice guys besides the 'hero'. What if The One would have the characteristics of the other guys and not the main guy we set our eyes upon?

The guy could be a person who's unable to express himself, keeping his emotions bottled up inside and make us clueless of what he's actually feeling.
Or the guy could be having a lot of flings and may seem like a jerk, when he doesn't even know why he does that - and could stop right when he found someone meant to be with him.
Or the guy could be pining away for this one girl he sets his eyes on a long time ago, yet the girl didn't give him a chance and when he lets go of that feeling..he found a girl who would devote herself to him.

Take the first guy above, if he's unable to express himself and he seems to be taking all the love we give him without giving much back..would you be understanding and keep on loving him? Or would you change him to be the way you want?

brave girl

I was at a loss for words when I first read about Giuliana having breast cancer. She found out about it while trying to get pregnant through IVF.

Giuliana and Bill are my idols. They are super busy with work scattered everywhere and yet, they still have time for their family. I hope that someday in the future, I will have a great husband like Bill and that I can be energetic like Giuliana who handles everything in her life so well.

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I have a lot of dreams which includes building a happy family of my own and at the same time build a successful, thriving empire. At times I question myself..can I do this? How would I manage the time and pay attention to everything? There would be a lot of stressful times - I know I'm thinking too much, when none of it has even started for me.

G, I know you can fight this battle with Bill, your family and us fans supporting you. You are such a brave girl for coming forward telling the world that you have cancer. You're thinking for others even during this difficult time, you are such a sweetheart. We know you can win this. I wish for you to have a complete recovery in no time and for the cancer to go away.

Much love from me.

making it work

I just finished reading The Last Song by Nicholas Sparks, which could be a bit late or not.

I know the movie had been out a long time ago. But I just prefer to read books more than the movies (when they're made into movies). I could picture what they wear and what they do in each paragraph - all in my mind. That's a whole lot more fun than having your expectations crushed when you watch the movie and it doesn't deliver.

The book is really good. I could now see why my two brothers are really into Sparks' books.

I feel that having a relationship when it feels it's not going to work as a waste. And Sparks wrote about that.

I mean, if the relationship can't survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term? ― Nicholas Sparks, The Last Song

We might as well be looking for that Mr. and Mrs. Right, and not spend time being 'together' temporarily.  Could we even call it a relationship? We will be thinking, 'oh, I'm going back home after this summer ends and this guy won't even remember me.' 'This girl's cool, but I can't picture myself being with her for long.'

But then there are also temporary flings that grow and put their roots deep in our hearts. I mean can we really tell if the feelings are going to stay? Or if the feelings are mutual? How can we know? Is it as easy as in the books - I felt the connection from the first time we set our eyes upon each other; I felt the urge to get to know the guy/girl; or we fought every time we met but I have these heavy feelings in my heart for her/him??

How to tell?

marry you

Wedding is such a joyous occasion - the little details, the dress, the white lace, the flowers, the bridesmaids, the best man, the friends, the aisle, the vow, the celebration. All in all it is filled with merry-making and laughter.

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But planning and preparing for a wedding could probably have brought on endless headaches and squabbles which could make or break the relationship. One wants simple little do with family and close friends only, the other wants a sumptuous occasion filled with everything from white lilies to white swans by the lakeside.
How do you compromise? The list would probably goes on and on with no sign of the end. Just look at Kim K's fairytale wedding. You'll get the picture alright.

What seemed to start as a union of love between two people could end up with them questioning the very union itself. "Can I live with this guy who doesn't seem to understand that I need this particular shade of green ribbon to go with the chairs?" "Who is this Bridezilla? Is she really the sweet and funny girl I proposed to, a couple of months back?"

We could end up separating like Emma and her fiancé in the film Bridewars (2009).

Little did we know that the wedding is like a window, that can show us just how the marriage will turn out in the future.

We could see the real person our partner is. We can get an insight of how our married life would be with our partner. But, would you be brave to call it quits the moment you see those tell-tale characters, or would you just go on with the wedding and hope to God your partner will become someone you hoped for?

Just remind me to have deep, imperative talks with my future husband before we say 'I do' and figure which direction we are going - and if it's really working out for us.

I want

If it's up to me, the guy who wants to be part of my life would have a long list to fulfill and that list is bottom-less.

• He would have to be someone sensitive, enough to be able to assess my feelings right at the moment. I mean it will be perfect if he can know just what to do especially when I'm not in the mood. Or just slip out of my sight quietly when I'm mad at him. Haha. 

• I need someone that is a manly man - one who can do any job under the sun. Plumber, checked. Masseur, checked. Gardener, checked. Too much 'Desperate Housewives' i guess. 

• He shouldn't be someone born with money, so that we won't have a complicated relationship. You know how money can interfere in any way. But he could be someone that will take measures to show appreciation to me once in a while with gifts - it's better tenfold if he works and save his pay just to surprise me with something. Sweet.

• Someone who understands that I'm not a person who can describe how much I love him, especially when the feeling has taken over me. I need you to understand how my heart works.

• He shouldn't mention any past relationship more than three times. It irritates me, no matter if he wants to say I'm better than those girls or if I should do something they did for him. I can only stand so much. It hurts to know I'm one of many, more so when you keep repeating it in my face. And for the girl you never got hold of, and still lamenting over her - put her out of your mind and stop mentioning her name, period. 

• He must be able to know when he needs to make the decisions, and when he can be sweet and ask me to make the decisions. 

That's long enough for now, I'll be sure to add more plus points I want in my man from time to time.
Keep my heart safe.

inspired

I'm starting my new blog by typing these words and gulping deep breaths to keep my heart from jumping out from my chest.

Hi there readers :)

I'm turning 25 in a matter of days, which is of course nothing big compared to those of you who've gained a lot during the years you've lived on this earth. I'm always open to ideas, suggestions and comments from you because I want to learn from everyone.

This is not my first, but since I need some anonymity before I can really open up and 'talk' - this blog is here for your eyes.

Love makes the world go round, or does it?